How to Give Feedback Without Reducing Someone to Tears

Employees, performers, investors and inventors always say they want feedback on how they did. But do they really want to hear the bad along with the good?

Most people are hoping for positive feedback. But most of us also learn from our mistakes and benefit from constructive criticism. There is a right way and a wrong way, though, to give feedback after a presentation or media interview, without reducing someone to tears.

Accentuate the Positive

When critiquing a presentation with someone, …Read more…

Do Integrity and Trust Still Count for Anything?

Not to be cynical, but the recent past hasn’t been so encouraging if you still believe that trust and integrity count in this world.

Not so long ago, CNN released the contents of the late Lybian Ambassador Christopher Stevens’ personal journal, after reportedly assuring his family that it wouldn’t. Commenting on the CNN brouhaha, a spokesperson for Secretary of State Hillary Clinton was quoted as telling a reporter to f–k off.

Do Integrity and Trust Count?

The photo of a topless Duchess of Cambridge sun bathing on a private vacation was another media shocker. After the photo appeared in a French magazine, other media took the attitude “they printed it so why can’t we?” So the image is going viral in other countries (but not the U.K.) and so far as we know not the U.S. …Read more…

Our Best Wishes for an Inspirational Holiday

The holiday season inspires happiness and feelings that life is good.

Happy holiday, funny tree with balloonsThe writer and poet Maya Angelou has a magic touch with words and expressions that gets to the heart of the human experience.

On the occasion of her 70th birthday, Oprah Winfrey interviewed Maya Angelou and asked her what she thought of growing older. She responded that it was “exciting.” …Read more…

Is That You in the YouTube Video — Drunk at the Holiday Party?!

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Oh, no. Your worst fears have come true. You had too much to drink at your company’s holiday party and you ended up on the floor. A “friend” captured the embarrassing incident on his smart phone and thought it would be funny to post it to YouTube and tweet the link to his Twitter followers.

Now the video is getting hundreds of views. Your boss and clients are furious to see you smashed and making nasty comments about them. You’ve damaged your reputation and personal brand.

That image of you on the floor will live on in perpetuity. Very likely there is someone …Read more…