You’ve heard it too many times: the distracting, irritating, cell phone that rings or vibrates during the middle of a business presentation.
Smart phones, cell phones and BlackBerrys are wrecking havoc with business etiquette and manners. Their indiscriminate use is hurting business, and it could be your business if you’re not careful.
True story. An executive was sitting across the desk from a prospect making a business presentation. As the prospect was talking, the sales executive took out his Blackberry to check for messages. End of meeting, and end of sales opportunity. The prospect was insulted, and deservedly so.
Everybody wants to feel important. So if you’re in a meeting, give your undivided attention. How would you feel if someone was checking his emails while you were talking? What would Emily Post say about that kind of behavior?
The Old Rules Still Apply
Proper business etiquette hasn’t changed. The informality of today’s business environment — social media, casual dress and the virtual office has made people careless.
For example, many companies in a cost-saving measure have dispensed with receptionists. If a client is visiting your office for a business presentation, do you roll out the red carpet? Is someone stationed at the elevator to greet him, or does he have to pound on a locked door to get someone’s attention? Making a client wait in the reception area for 20 minutes is just not going to build a relationship.
Have you been in meetings where the host didn’t even offer a visitor a glass of water? This isn’t any way to treat someone.
Yet, some people make these flagrant mistakes and don’t even know it.
Mind Your Etiquette
Here is a simple list of reminders:
- Make a checklist. Prepare a list of things to do when you are scheduling a meeting: reconfirm the time, have someone greet your visitors, serve refreshments, have pads and pencils available, prepare handouts and test the audio visual equipment in advance to be sure it’s working. Make visitors feel welcomed and positive about you and your company. If there are several people at a meeting who don’t know each other, think about using name badges. If you are visiting a client or prospect, be on time, dress appropriately and follow up with a thank you note.
- Listen attentively. Give a speaker your undivided attention. Put away your cell phones, IPads and laptops. It is rude to be multi-tasking while someone is talking to you.
- Follow up. In addition to sending a thank you note, if you promised to do something, then be sure to follow through.
Why don’t executives follow these simple rules? We’d love to hear about your experiences concerning business etiquette – both the good and the bad. Please feel free to leave a note in the comment box below.






I have experienced the same things which were presented in this article. Meeting attendants bringing their laptops to a meeting and either doing other work or surfing the web or using cellphones. This happens at all managerial levels, executives, managers, middle management. It is really distracting and shows a lack of respect for those in the meeting. Why do we feel we need to be so contacted all the time.
Mary- Not sure why we all feel compelled to be connected 24/7. I’m not a psychologist but perhaps it has to do with poor self-esteem. The one with the most messages is the most popular? While multi-tasking is what we all do, information retention suffers when we’re checking messages while listening to a speaker. It’s impossible to be reading one thing and hearing another without losing some, if not alll, the information you’re taking in.
Bravo.
Nothing is more flattering than to ask that all calls be held during a meeting. Alas, with fewer assistants, etc if the host turns his cell off and silences the landline, it sends a powerful signal.
Thank you for “Business Etiquette Primer” which needs to be read and reread.
Manners don’t change.
Now could you address the business of people putting their cellphones on the table when they are at a social or business lunch or dinner? I find it demeaning.
Hi Diane- Thanks for your astute comment that “manners don’t change”. I love what you wrote about how flattering it is when the host asks that all calls be silenced. Definitely makes the meeting and the people
attending it feel important and that what they say matters.