How to Give Feedback Without Reducing Someone to Tears

Employees, performers, investors and inventors always say they want feedback on how they did. But do they really want to hear the bad along with the good?

Most people are hoping for positive feedback. But most of us also learn from our mistakes and benefit from constructive criticism. There is a right way and a wrong way, though, to give feedback after a presentation or media interview, without reducing someone to tears.

Accentuate the Positive

When critiquing a presentation with someone, …Read more…

Fake it Till You Become it — the “Power Person” in the Room

The popular concept “fake it till you make it” dates to Aristotle who famously proclaimed that acting virtuous will make you virtuous.

But Harvard social psychologist Amy Cuddy has a new take on this old expression: “Fake it Till You Become it.”

Power Poses

In her TED presentation, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are,” Cuddy gives examples from her research that faking it actually works. As she says, “…when you pretend to be powerful, you are also more likely to feel powerful.” …Read more…

Why Talking About Yourself Can Torpedo a Job Interview

Many job candidates are given bad advice. They’re told to write out their accomplishments and practice them so they’re ready to respond to the oft-answered question: “Tell me about yourself.” Then they proceed to babble on and on and on.

The Real Question

The subtext behind the question really is: “Tell me about yourself and what you can do for my department and company.” It’s all about the benefits you bring to the table. Think of a job interview as a presentation or sales pitch. You don’t want to simply read the entire menu, but choose those “entrees” that will whet the interviewer’s appetite to hear more.

But how do you know what those are? …Read more…

How to Maintain Control of the Q&A Following a Presentation

Controlling the Q&A

You’ve just delivered a great presentation. Now it’s time for the Q&A and the first person to raise her hand asks: “Can you give me more details about this new technology?” and you’re left speechless. You don’t have the answer.

Bring a Content Expert

The Q&A following a presentation can be more important than the presentation itself. If you flub the group discussion you’ve lost your audience.

Be prepared for any question, including the ones you can’t answer yourself.

In that case, be sure to have a …Read more…